ANGER AND BITTERNESS
Anger is
a natural part of our human existence. We’re angered when things don’t go our
way or when we feel we’ve been treated unfairly. We’re frustrated when we
strive to achieve a goal that seems just out of our reach. Women who live
through infertility and miscarriage walk through a cycle of emotions, but probably
the most powerful is anger.
When it began to be apparent that conception was not going to be an easily achieved goal, I began looking for someone to blame. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was my husband, but most frequently, it was God. As with most problems in life, it is easier to be angry at their existence than to do what’s necessary to address them. There were times I remember sitting on the bed, rocking back and forth, burning tears streaming down my face, screaming: “I hate myself.” And I did. I hated this body, this feeble, dysfunctional body I was inhabiting. I was angry at my inability to control my own circumstances. I was angry at myself for wanting a child in the first place.
Sometimes it was my husband that felt the brunt of my anger. If he could just be a better sexual partner, perhaps our chances of conception would be greater. It seemed to me sometimes that he just didn’t share the same desires as I did; that having a child wasn’t that important to him. And I was angry that he didn’t seem to be suffering as much as I was.
Most of the anger I felt was directed at God. I had good reason, I thought. He was the one who created me. He was the one who gave me the desire to be a mother. He was the only one who could do anything about my situation, and He seemed to be sitting on His hands. This anger intensified after my second miscarriage. The day I found out that the pregnancy was failing, I attended a prayer meeting service at our church. Many men and women of God were there—people who were known as effective prayer warriors—and they prayed over me and my child, imploring God to intervene and calling forth life within the tiny embryo that was struggling within me. I left in full confidence that I was about to witness a miracle.
But days later, I left the OBGYN’s office in a flood of confusion, and anguish. My pregnancy, the one I had waited so many years for, was over. There was not even a trace of the tiny mass of life that had so quickly sprung into existence and faded away.
I had been betrayed. My anger burned so hot that I could feel it’s warmth rising up into my face and expressing itself in my tears. I had trusted God for a miracle and none had come. We wrestled with one another for days. I knew in the midst of it He was trying to speak to my heart but my ears were closed. What could He possibly say that could atone for this breach of trust between us?
It is important that I mention one thing: I tell this story as it was. It is tempting to sugarcoat it, to gloss over the uglier parts of my bitterness towards my Creator, but that wouldn’t do you or I any good. I do not condone my attitude during this time, but I also know that many of you reading this have wrestled with these same thoughts and feelings. They are situations we hesitate to mention in our Christian circles because we are afraid of how we will be perceived, so we go about pretending that we don’t fight them until one day they consume us. The truth is that we are reactive creatures who too often find ourselves in a volatile situation. The head knows that God is good, but the heart is easily affected.
When it began to be apparent that conception was not going to be an easily achieved goal, I began looking for someone to blame. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was my husband, but most frequently, it was God. As with most problems in life, it is easier to be angry at their existence than to do what’s necessary to address them. There were times I remember sitting on the bed, rocking back and forth, burning tears streaming down my face, screaming: “I hate myself.” And I did. I hated this body, this feeble, dysfunctional body I was inhabiting. I was angry at my inability to control my own circumstances. I was angry at myself for wanting a child in the first place.
Sometimes it was my husband that felt the brunt of my anger. If he could just be a better sexual partner, perhaps our chances of conception would be greater. It seemed to me sometimes that he just didn’t share the same desires as I did; that having a child wasn’t that important to him. And I was angry that he didn’t seem to be suffering as much as I was.
Most of the anger I felt was directed at God. I had good reason, I thought. He was the one who created me. He was the one who gave me the desire to be a mother. He was the only one who could do anything about my situation, and He seemed to be sitting on His hands. This anger intensified after my second miscarriage. The day I found out that the pregnancy was failing, I attended a prayer meeting service at our church. Many men and women of God were there—people who were known as effective prayer warriors—and they prayed over me and my child, imploring God to intervene and calling forth life within the tiny embryo that was struggling within me. I left in full confidence that I was about to witness a miracle.
But days later, I left the OBGYN’s office in a flood of confusion, and anguish. My pregnancy, the one I had waited so many years for, was over. There was not even a trace of the tiny mass of life that had so quickly sprung into existence and faded away.
I had been betrayed. My anger burned so hot that I could feel it’s warmth rising up into my face and expressing itself in my tears. I had trusted God for a miracle and none had come. We wrestled with one another for days. I knew in the midst of it He was trying to speak to my heart but my ears were closed. What could He possibly say that could atone for this breach of trust between us?
It is important that I mention one thing: I tell this story as it was. It is tempting to sugarcoat it, to gloss over the uglier parts of my bitterness towards my Creator, but that wouldn’t do you or I any good. I do not condone my attitude during this time, but I also know that many of you reading this have wrestled with these same thoughts and feelings. They are situations we hesitate to mention in our Christian circles because we are afraid of how we will be perceived, so we go about pretending that we don’t fight them until one day they consume us. The truth is that we are reactive creatures who too often find ourselves in a volatile situation. The head knows that God is good, but the heart is easily affected.
"Is
God's comfort too little for you? Is his gentle word not enough? What has
taken away your reason? What has weakened your vision, that you turn
against God and say all these evil things?” Job 15:11-13
Days later, after the initial shock had worn down to a dull ache, my heart began to open itself up to negotiations. I felt empty, unsettled, and unsure. There was a song that kept bringing itself to memory during that time:
Hide me now under your wings
Cover me within your mighty hand.
Find rest my soul in Christ alone
Know his power in quietness and trust.
When the oceans rise and thunders roar
I will soar with you above the storm.
Father you are king over the flood.
I will be still and know you are God.
The very one I felt had betrayed me was also the only one I knew could comfort me.
His heart was grieving with mine.
“Then Jesus turned to the Twelve and asked, ‘Are you also going to leave?’ Simon Peter replied, ‘Lord, to whom would we go? You have the words that give eternal life. We believe, and we know you are the Holy One of God.’" John 6:67-68
God was asking me: “Are you going to turn your back on Me?” Lord, to whom would I go? That thought struck me with such power that I began to weep. He alone had the words of life. Anywhere else I would find only more death and devastation, nothing but hopelessness when I was so desperate for something to believe in.
God was not the author of my despair. He hadn’t given me what my heart was so desperate for only to snatch it away in some cruel test of my affection. My anger was directed at the very one Who most intimately understood and shared my pain. It was like the pain He feels when one of His creation slips away into an eternity of darkness. He never had the chance to hold them in His arms and tell them just how much He loved them.
He could identify with my loss.
Days later, after the initial shock had worn down to a dull ache, my heart began to open itself up to negotiations. I felt empty, unsettled, and unsure. There was a song that kept bringing itself to memory during that time:
Hide me now under your wings
Cover me within your mighty hand.
Find rest my soul in Christ alone
Know his power in quietness and trust.
When the oceans rise and thunders roar
I will soar with you above the storm.
Father you are king over the flood.
I will be still and know you are God.
The very one I felt had betrayed me was also the only one I knew could comfort me.
His heart was grieving with mine.
“Then Jesus turned to the Twelve and asked, ‘Are you also going to leave?’ Simon Peter replied, ‘Lord, to whom would we go? You have the words that give eternal life. We believe, and we know you are the Holy One of God.’" John 6:67-68
God was asking me: “Are you going to turn your back on Me?” Lord, to whom would I go? That thought struck me with such power that I began to weep. He alone had the words of life. Anywhere else I would find only more death and devastation, nothing but hopelessness when I was so desperate for something to believe in.
God was not the author of my despair. He hadn’t given me what my heart was so desperate for only to snatch it away in some cruel test of my affection. My anger was directed at the very one Who most intimately understood and shared my pain. It was like the pain He feels when one of His creation slips away into an eternity of darkness. He never had the chance to hold them in His arms and tell them just how much He loved them.
He could identify with my loss.
1. Have you experienced feelings of anger in connection to your
experiences?
2. At whom was your anger directed and why?
3. Have you ever felt betrayed by God? What led to those feelings?
2. At whom was your anger directed and why?
3. Have you ever felt betrayed by God? What led to those feelings?
“Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can fully share its joy.”
Proverbs 14:10
"I cannot keep from speaking. I must express my anguish. My bitter soul must complain.” Job 7:11
"I am disgusted with my life. Let me complain freely. My bitter soul must complain.”
Job 10:1
“Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” Hebrews 12:15
These
verses represent a snapshot of what bitterness looks like in a person. Once the
root of bitterness takes hold, it is difficult to remove it.
Bitterness destroys a person’s relationship with God. It makes them unable to accept His unconditional love for them, and makes them unable to love Him in return. Ray Burke, in his book Anger--Diffusing the Bomb, says that each time he counseled those who doubted God's love for them, he discovered that somewhere along the line they harbored bitterness against God, themselves or someone else. When this bitterness was finally dealt with and resolved, their ability to accept God's love and forgiveness was restored.
Bitterness destroys a person’s relationship with God. It makes them unable to accept His unconditional love for them, and makes them unable to love Him in return. Ray Burke, in his book Anger--Diffusing the Bomb, says that each time he counseled those who doubted God's love for them, he discovered that somewhere along the line they harbored bitterness against God, themselves or someone else. When this bitterness was finally dealt with and resolved, their ability to accept God's love and forgiveness was restored.
Bitterness
is not only damaging to us spiritually, but it also affects our physical and
mental health. In the book None of these
Diseases, S. I. McMillan says, “anger, unhandled, will show itself in at
least 50 diseases." Dr. Norman Wright, a Christian professor of psychology
at Biola University, also attests to this fact. God has constructed us, he says,
with a tube about 30 feet long that begins at our throat and runs to our rectum.
That long tube, disturbed by bitterness and anger, produces things like
colitis, diarrhea and ulcers. When we are angry and do not handle it properly,
there are physical consequences.
A biblical example of bitterness is played out in the life of Naomi, the mother-in-law of Ruth. It is interesting to note that her name meant “Pleasant”. Naomi’s story is similar in many ways to our own. She suffered the loss of those she held most dear. After moving to a strange land from her homeland, Israel, with her husband and two sons, she was in the tragic position to witness the deaths of all three within ten years. The book of Ruth records her comments to her daughter-in-laws, revealing the target of her anger:
A biblical example of bitterness is played out in the life of Naomi, the mother-in-law of Ruth. It is interesting to note that her name meant “Pleasant”. Naomi’s story is similar in many ways to our own. She suffered the loss of those she held most dear. After moving to a strange land from her homeland, Israel, with her husband and two sons, she was in the tragic position to witness the deaths of all three within ten years. The book of Ruth records her comments to her daughter-in-laws, revealing the target of her anger:
“Things are far more bitter for
me than for you, because the Lord himself has raised his fist against me.” Ruth
1:13b
Naomi
was a woman obsessed with her tragedy. All three women were in the same
position. They had all lost those dear to them, yet Naomi’s bitterness had so
overwhelmed her that she felt the need to compare her suffering with those
around her.
"’Don't call me Naomi,’ she responded. ’Instead, call me Mara, for the Almighty has made life very bitter for me. I went away full, but the Lord has brought me home empty. Why call me Naomi when the Lord has caused me to suffer and the Almighty has sent such tragedy upon me?" Ruth 1: 20-21
"’Don't call me Naomi,’ she responded. ’Instead, call me Mara, for the Almighty has made life very bitter for me. I went away full, but the Lord has brought me home empty. Why call me Naomi when the Lord has caused me to suffer and the Almighty has sent such tragedy upon me?" Ruth 1: 20-21
God had
become the author of her pain and the object of her anger. God had taken away her
husband and her sons, and she held it against Him. Five times in these three
verses she held God accountable for her bitterness. She was so bitter, in fact,
that she even changed her name to mean “Bitter”. This is an important picture
of the effect bitterness has on a life. It changed Naomi so drastically that even
her very identity was altered.
Bitterness is our obsession with our own hurt. It is choosing to live in a state of pain for the rest of our lives instead of seeking out the joy and peace God desires for us. Looking at it that way, it seems absurd that anyone would choose such a fate, but some of you have done just that. I once heard that bitterness is rooted in hate, psychologically linked to the same emotion that results in murder or suicide. That is a powerful and disturbing thought. If you recognize that you are mired down in bitterness, resolve yourself now to the task of removing it from your life.
Let’s visit some important truths in regards to bitterness.
1. First, you need to realize how vital it is that you remove bitterness from your life.
It’s already been said: bitterness destroys lives. It destroys marriages and it destroys families. But, bitterness is also comfortable. It becomes familiar. It makes a person feel self-important and in control. This can be the most difficult part to let go of. When we’ve walked through a situation in which we had no control, the feeling of being able to control our own anger is tantalizing. It makes us feel powerful when, in fact, it is stripping us of our very life, making us weaker by the day.
Bitterness is our obsession with our own hurt. It is choosing to live in a state of pain for the rest of our lives instead of seeking out the joy and peace God desires for us. Looking at it that way, it seems absurd that anyone would choose such a fate, but some of you have done just that. I once heard that bitterness is rooted in hate, psychologically linked to the same emotion that results in murder or suicide. That is a powerful and disturbing thought. If you recognize that you are mired down in bitterness, resolve yourself now to the task of removing it from your life.
Let’s visit some important truths in regards to bitterness.
1. First, you need to realize how vital it is that you remove bitterness from your life.
It’s already been said: bitterness destroys lives. It destroys marriages and it destroys families. But, bitterness is also comfortable. It becomes familiar. It makes a person feel self-important and in control. This can be the most difficult part to let go of. When we’ve walked through a situation in which we had no control, the feeling of being able to control our own anger is tantalizing. It makes us feel powerful when, in fact, it is stripping us of our very life, making us weaker by the day.
2. God is not the author of your pain.
We discussed this somewhat in chapter one. God does not inflict pain into our lives as a method of testing our loyalty to Him. He doesn’t need to. The very fallen, sin-filled world we live in thrives on death and destruction, and heaps it upon every chance it gets. There are many people who would vehemently disagree with me on this point, but I reference only the very nature of God to draw this conclusion. He is good. He is love. He is light. He is a Creator, not a destroyer. He sent His own Son to bring us life. If God was the bringer of death and heartache then they would have existed in the world from the beginning. But they didn’t. They entered the scene with our Enemy, and when we invited him to stay, so, too, did they.
The hardest thing to deal with in any life is the question of why. Why did this terrible thing happen to me? If you don’t believe in a higher power, then your answer is simply because it is in the very nature of existence. A bleak, and hopeless outlook. But, if you do believe in the existence of an all-powerful, all-knowing Creator, your question of “why” is bound to be conflicting. If God is all-powerful then why didn’t He stop this from happening? How many times I asked that myself. I didn’t believe that God killed my baby, but I didn’t understand why He didn’t intervene when I knew He could have.
If I’m going to be honest with you—and I have no choice but to be—I am still searching for the answer to that question, as billions before me have done. There comes a point in life when we have to mature in our faith and accept the fact that there are some things we may never fully understand, not matter how badly we want to. This is one of those subjects. God invites us, however, to seek Him in these matters, to search out His heart and His comfort, and He promises that we will find peace in Him, with or without the answer we were looking for.
We discussed this somewhat in chapter one. God does not inflict pain into our lives as a method of testing our loyalty to Him. He doesn’t need to. The very fallen, sin-filled world we live in thrives on death and destruction, and heaps it upon every chance it gets. There are many people who would vehemently disagree with me on this point, but I reference only the very nature of God to draw this conclusion. He is good. He is love. He is light. He is a Creator, not a destroyer. He sent His own Son to bring us life. If God was the bringer of death and heartache then they would have existed in the world from the beginning. But they didn’t. They entered the scene with our Enemy, and when we invited him to stay, so, too, did they.
The hardest thing to deal with in any life is the question of why. Why did this terrible thing happen to me? If you don’t believe in a higher power, then your answer is simply because it is in the very nature of existence. A bleak, and hopeless outlook. But, if you do believe in the existence of an all-powerful, all-knowing Creator, your question of “why” is bound to be conflicting. If God is all-powerful then why didn’t He stop this from happening? How many times I asked that myself. I didn’t believe that God killed my baby, but I didn’t understand why He didn’t intervene when I knew He could have.
If I’m going to be honest with you—and I have no choice but to be—I am still searching for the answer to that question, as billions before me have done. There comes a point in life when we have to mature in our faith and accept the fact that there are some things we may never fully understand, not matter how badly we want to. This is one of those subjects. God invites us, however, to seek Him in these matters, to search out His heart and His comfort, and He promises that we will find peace in Him, with or without the answer we were looking for.
“‘In
those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you
will find me. I will be found by you,’ says the Lord. ‘I will end your
captivity and restore your fortunes.’” Jeremiah 29:12-13
I love the end of that verse: “I
will end your captivity and restore your fortunes”. Bitterness certainly keeps
us held captive in its grip. It keeps us from moving forward, from progressing
past our hurts. Only the strength of God can set us free; and not only does he
give us back our freedom, but He restores our “fortune”—the worth and value a
life of bitterness strips away from us. He reminds us that we are His, and He
is ours, forever.
3. It is okay to grieve for a time.
I can sometimes be a little harsh, I know, so I want to take a moment, to remind both of us that grieving over our loss is not sin. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 reminds us that sorrow is an activity of a normal life here on this fallen, sinful planet.
3. It is okay to grieve for a time.
I can sometimes be a little harsh, I know, so I want to take a moment, to remind both of us that grieving over our loss is not sin. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 reminds us that sorrow is an activity of a normal life here on this fallen, sinful planet.
For
everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.
Jesus
himself grieved over the loss of a loved one. The shortest verse in the Bible
is also one of the most powerful: “Jesus wept” (John 11:35). It reminds us not
only of the humanity of Jesus, but of His understanding of our need to grieve a
loss.
Not grieving is just as unhealthy as remaining in grief. Don’t try to be “strong” and avoid your grief. This will cause many more problems for you. Understand and accept the fact that your heart needs to express its sorrow over the loss it feels before it can move on. Alternatively, if it seems that you have been grieving longer than is normal. How long is too long? Psychologists use a timeline of two months of intense grieving and up to eighteen months of active grieving for the loss of a loved one. If you have been grieving longer than this, or if you feel “stuck” in your feelings of grief, you may be having difficulty moving on. You may need to seek out a Christian counselor or other professional to help you address these issues. Find someone who will give you not just text book advice, but biblical advice as well. Within this group, I encourage you to be open and transparent, and share your heart. If you are grieving, don’t be ashamed to acknowledge it. If you are not, be ready and willing to “be a shoulder to cry on” for those who are going through the grieving process around you. You don’t necessarily have to have anything earth-moving to say, just a willingness to listen and a compassionate heart. Sharing our grief with others is important to our recovery.
Not grieving is just as unhealthy as remaining in grief. Don’t try to be “strong” and avoid your grief. This will cause many more problems for you. Understand and accept the fact that your heart needs to express its sorrow over the loss it feels before it can move on. Alternatively, if it seems that you have been grieving longer than is normal. How long is too long? Psychologists use a timeline of two months of intense grieving and up to eighteen months of active grieving for the loss of a loved one. If you have been grieving longer than this, or if you feel “stuck” in your feelings of grief, you may be having difficulty moving on. You may need to seek out a Christian counselor or other professional to help you address these issues. Find someone who will give you not just text book advice, but biblical advice as well. Within this group, I encourage you to be open and transparent, and share your heart. If you are grieving, don’t be ashamed to acknowledge it. If you are not, be ready and willing to “be a shoulder to cry on” for those who are going through the grieving process around you. You don’t necessarily have to have anything earth-moving to say, just a willingness to listen and a compassionate heart. Sharing our grief with others is important to our recovery.
“Weeping
may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.” Psalm
30:5
But just as grieving is natural, moving on is also natural—and necessary.
But just as grieving is natural, moving on is also natural—and necessary.
4. God
has given us the power to overcome the world.
This power is founded in the blood of Jesus, and inherited by our adoption into the family of God.
This power is founded in the blood of Jesus, and inherited by our adoption into the family of God.
“For
every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through
our faith.” I
John 5:4
“Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you." Luke 10:19
God has given us the power to overcome the world, but we rarely exercise it. Why? Because it’s costly. It costs our flesh its indulgences. Because to exercise that authority over the world and its ravages, we must live a life devoted to God and steeped in His holiness. That’s a life that our flesh doesn’t easily surrender to, but that our spirit is longing for.
“My
soul yearns for You in the night; in the morning my spirit longs for You.” Isaiah
26:9
The
Bible tells us that if we have faith like a mustard seed, we can move
mountains. No doubt you’ve heard that many, many times, but if you are anything
like me, you probably believed that it was saying: “if you believe it enough,
you can do anything”. But faith is not a question of mental assent. Faith is so
much more than just believing something hard enough; it’s a lifestyle. Faith is
lived out every day, not just in the moment we need it. Although I really want
to expound on that thought, we will reserve that for a later chapter.
5. We are called to a higher calling.
We have been called to bring hope to a world that is perishing in hopeless darkness. How can we do the things that matter for eternity if we are preoccupied with our own hurts?
5. We are called to a higher calling.
We have been called to bring hope to a world that is perishing in hopeless darkness. How can we do the things that matter for eternity if we are preoccupied with our own hurts?
“You are the salt of the earth.
But what good is salt if it has lost its flavor? Can you make it salty again?
It will be thrown out and trampled underfoot as worthless. You are the light of
the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp
and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it
gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds
shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your Heavenly Father." Matthew
5:13-16
I
am in no way making light of the hurt that you or I have felt at a miscarriage
or years of unsuccessfully trying to conceive, but I am trying to remind us
both that we died to this life, and that our real life is hidden with Christ
(Colossians 3:3). There are people perishing all around us, in need of the hope
we can give them, and we simply don’t have time to waste in bitterness and
regret.
"For
once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live
as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good
and right and true. Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. Take no
part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness.” Ephesians 5:8-10
Bitterness
is truly a worthless deed of darkness. It has no place in the life of someone
who has been redeemed by the shed blood of Jesus. The world desperately needs
the light we have inside, but if we keep it hidden under a shroud of depression
and anger, we are not going to be able to fulfill our destiny as Christians.
I am not asking you to forget your experience, or the desire you have to be a mother. I am asking you to remember your higher calling in it all; to temper duty with desire. I am asking you to remember that we are still in the middle of a battle and those around us need us to fight.
I am not asking you to forget your experience, or the desire you have to be a mother. I am asking you to remember your higher calling in it all; to temper duty with desire. I am asking you to remember that we are still in the middle of a battle and those around us need us to fight.
1. Do you feel as though you have been plagued with bitterness in your own life? Are you currently holding on to bitterness? If so, what events and feelings led to it?
2. Have you ever known anyone who you would describe as a
bitter person? Maybe even a character from a movie or book? Describe their
attitude and actions, being as observant as possible.
3. What personal insight did you glean from the story of Naomi
in Ruth chapter 1? Can you relate to her in any way?
4. Do you think bitterness could affect your infertility? In
what way?
THIS WEEK…
Review the 5 points of bitterness and anger. Meditate on
each thought and listen for what God would tell you through them. Look up
additional scriptures using a concordance. Journal your thoughts and feelings,
being as honest and open as you can.
First, you need to realize how vital it is that you remove
bitterness from your life.
God is not the author of your pain.
It is okay to grieve for a time.
It is okay to grieve for a time.
God has given us the power to overcome the world.
We are called to a higher calling.
Bitterness Research…
We are called to a higher calling.
Bitterness Research…
Conduct an internet search (or check out books) on
bitterness and explore the topic for yourself, from both Christian and
non-Christian viewpoints. Summarize your findings and be prepared to share what
you discover.